To ensure online dating safety, all new members are approved manually. At ChristianSingles.com, we’ve implemented a number of safety measures to provide a safe environment so you can focus on the fun part – finding your life partner.
While ChristianSingles.com has implemented a manual approval system for each new member to ensure a high quality dating community, we DO NOT PROVIDE BACKGROUND CHECK on any of the members. Members need to do run their own search to check a background of a member they are interested in.
Just like in the conventional dating, online dating requires you to use your common sense to be safe. The most important rules of the online dating are:
Take it slow
Do not rush to meet someone right away after exchanging a few nice emails. Get to know the person through our online communication tools first. Make sure to ask important questions, see photos and a video of the person. If you sense something is not quite right, keep asking questions until you are satisfied with his/her answers. Be patient; begin your communication via emails or Christian chat only.
Guard your anonymity
Do not include your full name, e-mail, home address, workplace, phone numbers, or any other identifying information when corresponding with other members. It is very important to get an idea of the kind of person whom you are communicating with. When you decide to communicate with a member outside the site, use a separate email address. Free email accounts from Yahoo, Hotmail and Gmail.
Trust your instincts
Carefully consider your partners words. Trust your instincts and if anything makes you uncomfortable, end the communication. If something seems too good to be true don’t doubt yourself and do some investigation. Please report unusual activities to us with or without proof.
God is in control through you
Remember that God is in control of your online experience at all times. You can remain completely anonymous until you feel comfortable with that person. If you decide to meet, tell your friends or relatives where you are going, with whom, and when you will return. Pick a public place and provide your own transportation to and from the meeting place.
When Meeting Offline Use the Following Precautions:
- Always meet in a populated public place and stay in the public place. Do not go to his/her home not invite to yours; do not go to any secluded locations;
- Inform friends or relatives so that they know where you will be and the time you should return. Make sure they contact police if they don’t hear from you and can’t reach you by that time.
- No cocktails. While a glass of wine might be OK, try to stay sober to maintain good judgment about any potential danger.
- Provide your own transportation to and from the first meeting.
- Keep your personal items (wallet, your drink) with you at all times.
DATING AND SEXUAL ASSAULTS/RAPE:
While we provide manual approval of new members to ensure quality of Christian singles joining this dating service, we do not offer background check of the new members. Unless you conduct your own investigation, you should presume that the person you want to meet might have a criminal record or be on a sex offenders list.
When meeting for the first few times we recommend including family members and/or friends to join and/or meeting in public places for a few months until you feel sure about the person.
Christian Singles Commitments Corp and its websites (including ChristianSingles.com) is being held harmless against any damages for any rape charges or sexual assaults resulting from dates. See our Terms of Use.
To avoid falling a victim of sex crime we recommend following the tips below:
- Take seriously any suspicious activity such as sexual gestures or language;
- Never meet in his/her place unless you are close to engagement;
- In addition to your mobile phone you should carry with you some type of self-defense device;
- Contact police immediately if you are harassed, being solicited or forced into anything against your will;
- Always meet only in public. Make sure the place is in a very populated location such as coffee house, restaurant. Do not meet in a private or remote, secluded location.
- Use common sense to protect yourself and if there are any red flags about the person politely end your date
WE RECOMMEND THE MEMBERS PRIOR TO DATING TO USE THE FBI OFFICIAL SITE TO RUN SEARCHES IN 50 STATES
http://www.fbi.gov/scams-safety/registry
http://meganslaw.ca.gov/search_main.asp?searchtype=name
As well as other websites that offer background check:
http://www.ussearch.com
http://www.intelius.com
https://www.integrascan.com
Learn how to spot a scam and avoid it.
If you encounter someone asking for money, spamming or any odd behavior please report them immediately. To be safe and not become a victim follow these two steps below:
Identify scam. Below are few examples of scam:
- You receive a message from any member stating that one of their relatives has died, or that they inherited large sum of money and now need a bank account to transfer the money.
- You receive a message offering you money for some kind of service from a person that you don’t even know.
- The member asks you to send money for visa arrangements, ticket to fly to you, pay for internet, has an urgent surgery, etc. after a few tender letters.
- The person contacting you is significantly younger (e.g. you are 45 years old and the person contacting you is in his/her early 20′s).
- The member profile and messages contains large amount of spelling errors and especially when his/her profile indicates s/he has a good education background such as Masters Degree.
- They quickly declare that they have fallen in love with you and insist that you have made a huge change in their lives.
- They would normally say they live or born in USA, UK, Australia but have to go overseas to work in Ghana, Nigeria, or somewhere in Africa. But will be coming home soon.
Remember: The scammer’s story could be very emotional and easily gain sympathy and affection from the victim.
Avoid scam. How? Very simple!
- DO NOT SEND MONEY to anyone.
- Don’t reply to anyone who is requesting your personal email right away.
- Do not provide any of your financial information such as credit card or bank info
- Do not share your personal information such as SSN, address, phone number, etc.
- Use common sense. If you’re in doubt ask a friend or family member for their opinion.
- Read their profile thoroughly including their photos. Ask you self “Is this too good to be true”.
- Ask questions such as where do they live and nearby cities; ask them about their profession etc. Most of the times they don’t know anything about it or won’t reply.
