Dating sites typically do not cover how to write winning Christian personals. We do.
**Please read our Membership Guidelines prior to completing your profile. For a successful profile, keep the following tips in mind:
Writing about yourself:
Both you and your potential soul mate have the advantage to read and learn about each other before meeting. Your character and personality has to be defined in detail. Every word has to be properly selected. Do not use phrases such as: “I am a nice guy”, or “I am handsome/beautiful” (is anyone ugly?) or “I have material possessions” (who are you trying to impress?).
Tell the truth in your profile:
Remember the truth will eventually come out. Our site does not have a lie detection search engine to check every profile. However, we expect that as a new Christian Single member you are presenting the truth about yourself. In questions such as “What is your marital status?”, “Do you attend church regularly?”, “Do you read the Bible regularly?”, “Do you drink/smoke?” or “Your height and weight?” please present the true facts. We assume that if the member lies about any one of the above, he/she will probably lie about other things as well. You can tell the truth and still look good by declaring your commitment for certain gradual improvements. For instance; you could say “losing weight”, “stopping smoking” or “reading the Bible more regularly”.
Comments about yourself and your soul mate:
Tell the other members about “the real you”. Do not write about your past bad experiences, your failures in life, or your wants and needs. Remember to stay positive. When describing your perfect soul mate, state the characteristics very clearly. Be honest about what qualities you will not tolerate and which qualities are “A Must” in your soul mate. Tune in and listen to your heart and spirit and write from your heart.
How important is your picture:
Your photo is perhaps the most important element of your profile. Experts have a couple of strict rules. For men: “It does not matter how well-built you are, keep your shirt on.” For women: “No bikini shots.” Your picture will be disapproved and if you get a lot of e-mails it is likely they will be from the guys you don’t want to meet. Avoid wearing sunglasses and hats, which can make it look as if you’ve got something to hide. Dark, brooding shots usually aren’t a good way to go, either. “SMILE” “People try the serious shot because they want to seem professional, but you want to look like someone people would want to spend time with. People like happy people.” Do not post bar shots with drinks in your hands, or multiple shots of yourself wearing the same clothes. Be careful about cropping out other people from your picture. For example; your ex’s disembodied hand hanging around your shoulder does not send the right message. “It’s a lot like going to a video store, people walk through the aisle and when they see a cover that looks interesting, they flip it over and read the back. In Christian Singles, the photos are the cover and the profiles are the back. Would you like to be noticed? Having a picture in your profile will definitely make a big difference. Members usually skip profiles without pictures. Posting a picture in your profile is not for the purpose of showing others how beautiful you are, it is merely for the purpose with connecting to other members. We discourage our members from judging by the picture and encourage to pay more attention to the profile instead.
How important is the distance from your soul mate:
Some members are under the impression that they should meet someone in their local area only, maybe even in their own backyard; and they go as far as posting in their profile that “in no way they would relocate”. We believe that limiting yourself and taking control of your future and leaving God out, would be a prescription for disaster. We recommend having an open mind. Let go of control and let God set the parameters and limitations.
Have patience along with Faith; and again, Wait Upon Our Lord:
Once you submit the application, let God connect your spirit with the spirit of your soul mate. As you start communicating with members, pray prior to sending and answering emails. Do not judge members by race, ethnicity or picture. Let your heart and spirit lead your mind, not the other way around. Do not take more than one or two days to answer the emails. Our policy is that all emails should be answered within three days from the date of receipt. Do not give your personal information such as your email address, home phone or home address. Answering emails through the site (and not your personal email) will keep your identity confidential. (Please note that we at Christian Commitments Corp. are not liable for your actions).
